I was fortunate enough to be asked to work with Goodwill Industries on a fashion show. The people at Goodwill were great to work with - and honestly, I was shocked at the great things I found at Goodwill! Admittedly, I am not a bargain shopper. Plowing through bins of clothing, launching off on a quest to discover a great find at a discount store - well, it isn't me. I wish it was (I would have more money in my bank account for sure!). While spending the time going through bins and racks at Goodwill - I was able to find some of those great vintage pieces. The kinds of things that make me understand those of you out there who love the thrill of the hunt.
Being a part of the expo meant more than just producing a great fashion show. It also meant being at the mall, at a booth, for 12 hours. Ya, I am still tired.
While I was there, I was able to see a lot of different interpretations of what is fashionable. There were various takes on trends I haven't yet seen on the runway....or, were on the runway way before my entrance into the fashion world.
All of this was very interesting to me...
I know that for some women, they simply do not care. I don't understand that. How can you not care? By not caring about your appearance, and not taking time to look the best you can - what message are you sending to your family? To your husband? To your kids - especially to your daughter?
I had a short conversation with one of these women yesterday. She (we'll call her Jane) came up to my booth with one of her friends. Her friend grabbed my business card and exclaimed "I need your help! I will be calling you!" Jane announced, "I just don't see the point. I mean, I watch What Not To Wear, and there is no way I would ever spend that kind of money on anything. If I had $5,000 I would buy a newer car". OK - with that, I should have let it alone...but I couldn't. The reason I do what I do, is the look on the face of a women like Jane...when I get her in an outfit that fits her. Something that is still inside of her comfortable style zone, but something that makes her look amazing.
I replied "That show is more of an extreme example of possibilities. You wouldn't necessarily have to spend that much money to make yourself over. Really, just knowing what your shape is, and learning the styles that look best of you is what it is all about. And you can learn that without buying any clothes"
Jane said, "But why do I care? If people don't like me like I am, then I have no time for them. I'm not married, and I would never marry some dude that was only into it for my looks." - said while wearing a calico printed top, blue jean overall shorts, floral socks and keds with holes in them. I will say that her last comment stopped me in my tracks...shocking.
I commented, "well, looking your best isn't just for the people around you - it is also for you!"
Jane snapped back, "I just don't understand it all"
Which is what I think the bottom line is. Women who don't have the inherent fashionista gene, or who weren't raised in a family with girly girls really don't get it. I have a lot of customers who fit this profile. These ladies admit they wish they did get it - but they don't. I think everyone wants to look their best...even if they don't want to admit it.
What do you think? Are you one of those people who just don't get it?